It is 5:30 a.m. and even though I want to go back to bed to get a few more minutes of sleep I am enjoying this ALONE TIME! I’m drinking fresh hot coffee, let me repeat that, I AM DRINKING FRESH, HOT COFFEE. Not coffee that has been sitting and it now room temperature, Not coffee that has gotten cold from sitting then nuked in the microwave to get hot again, FRESH HOT COFFEE! No one told me that once I became a mother drinking coffee like this would be a privilege and no longer a morning ritual. I honestly miss the days where I would go into my favorite coffee shop and sit with a book and not be bothered. If I had the money, Id open my own coffee shop with a day care center attached for moms who just need an couple of hours of alone time. I know we all need it!
My best friend’s name is Jasmine. Her and I have been best friends since kindergarten. About 19 years now! Where has the time gone?
We were super close until high school. We didn’t go to the same school so he didn’t get to see each other much. She got new friends and so did I. We weren’t into the same thugs either: She was a cheerleader and a “preppy” girl and I was also a cheerleader but more on the “rocker” side. A couple of year after high school we had babies and became close again! Not as close as we were when we were kids but closer than that last few years! It was awesome! But it wasn’t the same. Of course we had our own lives but we made some time to see each other and get our kids together.
Ever since I moved to Gilbert we’ve been drifting farther and farth apart. It’s sucks. I just really mis the days when we were younger and spent 90% of our time with each other laughing and goofing around. It makes me even more sad that our kids don’t really know each other.
So a little background on my collection. When I was a child we didn’t travel much. My mom took my older brother and I to Disneyland when I was 5 and he was about 8. Other than that we didn’t do much traveling for fun or vacations. Eric and I started planning trips together early in our relationship. Our very first trip together was to Disneyland for our first Valentine’s Day! It was so awesome. After that I realized how little I traveled for pleasure.
From that point forward I promised myself I would go on as many trips and vacation as I could. Spring forward to our first wedding anniversary – We just got back from Los Angeles, CA! A much needed little break from our busy lives. I brought back as many souvenirs as I could buy! One of them being postcards!
Yes, I collect postcards! They such a cool and inexpensive little thing to collect! I bought a 12-pack of Harry Potter postcards for $13! The coolest thing was that I could send them from Hogsmead! I mailed one to each of my favorite family members. They have a little stand where you could have your cards stamped, write a quick message and slip them into the box and every night “an owl” sends them off! 😀 If you’re anything like me – a HP fanatic – that would mean a lot to you!
So far I have collected postcards from Huntington Beach, CA; Orlando, FL, Universal Studios, CA! I look forward to collecting as many, many more!
It’s 2:13 a.m. I’ve been up since 12:20 a.m. tossing and turning. I need a better bedtime routine. Falling asleep to the relaxing sounds of reality shows is not doing it anymore. As I’m sitting here drinking my sleepy-time tea, hoping to get sleepy to get at least one more hour of shut-eye before start my “Mom Shift”, I am trying to come up with my new bedtime routine. In January, I was diagnosed with post-partum depression (No, I’m not sad and I’m not suicidal) and one thing I am struggling with is sleeping through the night. Almost every night since I was 5 months pregnant I’ve needed to take some sort of sleep aid to keep my eyes shut till the morning time. Unisom was my best friend. The only problem with that is I wake up too groggy for my “Mom shift”. I am in need of more natural ways for me to fall asleep and stay asleep. Hopefully this works for me. I’ll update on it as I much as I can.
- Warm bath- Just like babies sleep better with a warm comforting bath, adults can benefit from soaking in a warm bath before bed time. A warm bath can promote muscle relaxation, if you’re anything like me- a nervous wreck- this will most likely work!
- Sleepy-time tea- Chamomile, spearmint, lemongrass, tilia flowers, blackberry leaves, orange blossoms, hawthorn and rosebuds. Chamomile helps to promote relaxation. Helps to ward off anxiety and tension.
- Yoga-just as much as yoga in the morning can energize you and make you feel awake and refreshed, it can also help you wind down. A few poses like Child’s pose, Cat/Cow, Downward dog, Cobra can stretch out muscles and ease tension from your busy day.
- Turn down for what? Lol just kidding, but seriously…turn everything off. Phones, ipads, TV, everything! The lights trick your brain into thinkin it is day time. This will be especially hard for me. My phone is in my hand 24/7. But I am willing to let it go for the sake of staying asleep all night.
- Reading. Reading is fun! I love to get lost in a good book. Now that I’m a mom I don’t get to read as much as I’d like. Reading will give your brain a good like exercise before bed and help kill time until your eyes get droopy. I really don’t know what it is about being comfy in bed with a good book that gets you sleepy but whenever I do it I don’t last a full chapter! My next book will be “Gone Girl”, I love the movie so I’m excited to read the book!
It is now 2:46 a.m. I finished my cup of tea, now I’m ready to go back to bed. Time to practice what I preach!
April 18th 2015, I found out I was pregnant with Lucas. I was lucky enough to stay home while pregnant. My reasoning was to spend more time with Dahlia before the new baby, But really I had the worst morning sickness! I couldn’t get out of bed some days. After Lucas was born I was for sure about having more kids! I wanted 2 more, so a total of 4! Eric was on board. He pretty much gives me whatever I want. after about 3 months of having to wake up in the middle of the night to feed Lucas I changed my mind. This was my first baby that I took care all on my own, and I realized how hard it was. When I was pregnant with Dahlia and after I had her, I lived with my mom in Tucson, AZ. My mom and Nana helped me out so much with her because I didn’t know what I was doing. But now that I lived in a new town without my family I realized how tough being a mom is!
Eric and I got to talking about our future plans, what we wanted to do, where we wanted to go, what we wanted for our kids. We came to a conclusion: We didn’t want to spend the rest of our lives raising kids. 2 kids is enough for us, 2 is PLENTY for us.
We wanted to be able to provide for our kids without struggling.
Provide for our kids without struggling. Raising kids is expensive. Diapers, Wipes, toys, you name it! It cost money, lots of it! Eric and I would rather spend our money (and time really lol) doing fun stuff with our kids as they grow! Disneyland anyone?! 🙂
Child care is SOOOOO EXPENSIVE!
Child care is sooo damn expensive! Even with a scholarship we pay $300/month for Dahlia’s preschool. She goes 3 1/2 hours a day, 4 days a weeks. I’m lucky to be a Work-From-Home Mom. Can you imagine What our child care expenses would be for 2 kids. I would be paying more for care than what I would be coming home with if I had a full-time job. It just doesn’t make sense!
We want to travel, with and without our kids.
Traveling is one of mine and Eric’s passions. We’d like to eventually buy a camper and travel around the country. One motto we like to live by is “I don’t live to work, I work to live” That being said, were not trying to be held down forever. We want to go and experience as many different places as we can. We want to make memories with our kids and teach the about different things. Letting them know there is a whole world out there to be explored!
We want to retire early.
Ok seriously, who doesn’t want to retire early? If we had more kids to provide for it would be impossible!
We want to retire to do our passion – Open a food truck and sell our amazing food.
Once we retired early, we’d like to make money and live off our passion – FOOD! We both cook really good food, and we enjoy cooking together. Having a food truck would allow us to work together, spend time with each other, make money and travel!!! Everything we love doing!
We don’t want our kids to grow up raising our younger kids.
This goes back to child care being expensive! If we decided to have more kids later on down the road I know for a fact we’d probably make one of our kids babysit for us. I grew up helping my mom out with my twin brothers, I was 13 when they were born. I can speak from experience on this, babysitting every once in a while to make extra money or help our family members is no big deal. But given adult responsibilities when your a teenager is tough, especially when you didn’t ask for it! My mother did the best she could with 4 kids and a dead-beat husband, I love her and admire her strength but I would never put my own kid in situations they were not ready for just for my benefit of wanting more kids. Its SELFISH. Kids need to be kids, they don’t need to spend their school breaks babysitting for their parents because parents cant find child care or cant afford it.
Last but not least, Eric and I would like to SLEEP! SLEEEEEEEEEEEP!
We co-slept with Dahlia until Lucas was born, We co-slept with Lucas until a few days ago. As much as we love cuddling our babies, we also love cuddling with each other. Eric works full time and goes to school 2 days out of the week so we don’t get to spend as much time together as we’d like. So we cherish our “Mommy-Daddy” time. Since we put Lucas in his own room and bed it been so hard for me. I miss him but let me tell you what I don’t miss, waking up with sore, raw and cracked nipples from Lucas sucking on me all night! 🙂
It is April 3rd, 2017. Eric, Lucas and I just completed our 3rd successful night of no longer co-sleeping. Not only did we end co-sleeping, we also put him in his own room too! his own bed, his own room, all by himself. Lucas, my handsome 1 year old boy, did so well. It was harder for me I think.
Friday night was our first night. Lucas had no idea what about to happen, it broke my heart. We let him play and run around the house till about 7 pm. Then I gave him a warm bath, massaged baby lotion on his little limbs, dressed him in comfy pajamas, let him say goodnight to Daddy and Sister. That was the easy part! When we went back into his room he knew something different was about to happen. I talked to him and told him it was time for “Me-me’s” (Spanish term for sleep time). He started to fuss a bit, I turn on his night light and music, rocked him for a few minutes, gave him 104 kisses (lol not really that much, maybe like 15) and laid him down in his crib.
He cried, and cried…and cried…and cried………….and cried. Eric and I got comfy in our bed, put on Game of Thrones, But I couldn’t concentrate! My son, who I’ve been co-sleeping with since birth was crying. I started to cry too, just thinking about how confused he must be! I started to tell Eric “What is he’s cold? What is he’s scared? Do you think he thinks I abandoned him?” My mind started to race, my anxiety was high. Eric finally calmed me down with “He’s fine, He has warm pajamas, He’s fed, He’s going to be ok.” Ok seriously, I don’t know what I would do without Eric, this perfect man knows just what to say to calm me craziness down. Finally, I turned over and passed out.
Jump forward to 6:45 a.m. the next day, Lucas was still asleep! 7:15 a.m. rolled around, Lucas was still asleep! then 7:40 a.m. I peeked in his room and up popped his little head! He was awake with a huge smile on his face!
WE SURVIVED NIGHT 1!!!!!!!
Night 2 & 3:
Same deal. Played until 7 p.m. Warm bath, pajamas, bed. Only this time the crying stopped with in 5 minutes!
Jump forward to today 7:20 a.m. this boy is still asleep!!!! I’m hoping this gets easier as we continue to stick to it. As much as I miss cuddling with my boy I need to get some sleep.
Hallelujah! I know some people who read this might think I’m a selfish mama but oh well, I don’t need to explain myself. 🙂