Why we decided to stop at 2 kids.

April 18th 2015, I found out I was pregnant with Lucas. I was lucky enough to stay home while pregnant. My reasoning was to spend more time with Dahlia before the new baby, But really I had the worst morning sickness! I couldn’t get out of bed some days. After Lucas was born I was for sure about having more kids! I wanted 2 more, so a total of 4! Eric was on board. He pretty much gives me whatever I want. after about 3 months of having to wake up in the middle of the night to feed Lucas I changed my mind. This was my first baby that I took care all on my own, and I realized how hard it was. When I was pregnant with Dahlia and after I had her, I lived with my mom in Tucson, AZ. My mom and Nana helped me out so much with her because I didn’t know what I was doing. But now that I lived in a new town without my family I realized how tough being a mom is!

Eric and I got to talking about our future plans, what we wanted to do, where we wanted to go, what we wanted for our kids. We came to a conclusion: We didn’t want to spend the rest of our lives raising kids. 2 kids is enough for us, 2 is PLENTY for us.

Our Reasoning:

We wanted to be able to provide for our kids without struggling.

Provide for our kids without struggling. Raising kids is expensive. Diapers, Wipes, toys, you name it! It cost money, lots of it! Eric and I would rather spend our money (and time really lol) doing fun stuff with our kids as they grow! Disneyland anyone?! 🙂

Child care is SOOOOO EXPENSIVE!

Child care is sooo damn expensive! Even with a scholarship we pay $300/month for Dahlia’s preschool. She goes 3 1/2 hours a day, 4 days a weeks. I’m lucky to be a Work-From-Home Mom. Can you imagine What our child care expenses would be for 2 kids. I would be paying more for care than what I would be coming home with if I had a full-time job. It just doesn’t make sense!

We want to travel, with and without our kids.

Traveling is one of mine and Eric’s passions. We’d like to eventually buy a camper and travel around the country. One motto we like to live by is “I don’t live to work, I work to live” That being said, were not trying to be held down forever. We want to go and experience as many different places as we can. We want to make memories with our kids and teach the about different things. Letting them know there is a whole world out there to be explored!

We want to retire early.

Ok seriously, who doesn’t want to retire early? If we had more kids to provide for it would be impossible!

We want to retire to do our passion – Open a food truck and sell our amazing food.

Once we retired early, we’d like to make money and live off our passion – FOOD! We both cook really good food, and we enjoy cooking together. Having a food truck would allow us to work together, spend time with each other, make money and travel!!! Everything we love doing!

We don’t want our kids to grow up raising our younger kids.

This goes back to child care being expensive! If we decided to have more kids later on down the road I know for a fact we’d probably make one of our kids babysit for us. I grew up helping my mom out with my twin brothers, I was 13 when they were born. I can speak from experience on this, babysitting every once in a while to make extra money or help our family members is no big deal.  But given adult responsibilities when your a teenager is tough, especially when you didn’t ask for it! My mother did the best she could with 4 kids and a dead-beat husband, I love her and admire her strength but I would never put my own kid in situations they were not ready for just for my benefit of wanting more kids. Its SELFISH. Kids need to be kids, they don’t need to spend their school breaks babysitting for their parents because parents cant find child care or cant afford it.

Last but not least, Eric and I would like to SLEEP! SLEEEEEEEEEEEP!  

We co-slept with Dahlia until Lucas was born, We co-slept with Lucas until a few days ago. As much as we love cuddling our babies, we also love cuddling with each other. Eric works full time and goes to school 2 days out of the week so we don’t get to spend as much time together as we’d like. So we cherish our “Mommy-Daddy” time. Since we put Lucas in his own room and bed it been so hard for me. I miss him  but let me tell you what I don’t miss, waking up with sore, raw and cracked nipples from Lucas sucking on me all night! 🙂

 

 

5:30 a.m.

It is 5:30 a.m. and even though I want to go back to bed to get a few more minutes of sleep I am enjoying this ALONE TIME! I’m drinking fresh hot coffee, let me repeat that, I AM DRINKING FRESH, HOT COFFEE. Not coffee that has been sitting and it now room temperature, Not coffee that has gotten cold from sitting then nuked in the microwave to get hot again, FRESH HOT COFFEE! No one told me that once I became a mother drinking coffee like this would be a privilege and no longer a morning ritual. I honestly miss the days where I would go into my favorite coffee shop and sit with a book and not be bothered. If I had the money, Id open my own coffee shop with a day care center attached for moms who just need an couple of hours of alone time. I know we all need it!

Music

When it comes to music I have a very diverse taste. I could be listening to The Doors one minute then switch to some punk then to Selena! I love all music.

One of my favorite genres is Indie Rock. More specifically the Post-Punk Revival of the late 90’s/early 2000’s from. The Strokes are one of those bands. From the first moment I heard Julian Casablancas’ voice I became an instant fan!  The first ever song I listened to was ‘Last Nite’ from their album ‘Is This it?’. I’m not sure what it was about that song that I was drawn to, I just knew I wanted more. From then on, I started to research them online. I remember finding a AOL video of ‘Reptilia’, probably their most well known song, and playing it over and over and over until my parents kicked me off the computer to use the phone (remember when the internet connection would hold up the telephone line lol). One day I heard it on the alternative rock radio station. I began calling the radio station everyday to request them to play it. After calling everyday for about a month I stole a cassette tape from my mother and decided to record the song off the radio so I could listen to it whenever I wanted! Now with the awesome power of fast technology I can pull up a youtube video of the strokes any time I want! its great! Click here to listen to Reptilia by The Strokes